There are very few things life that I am absolutely sure of: (1) nature is subject to a set of physical laws -elegant or otherwise, (2) all Gods are one and the same and (3) each species has a stronger sex and in the case of homo sapiens, it is the female (like most other species).
I am grateful that none in my family extrapolated isolated incidents and branded the entire female race as incapable of certain tasks (driving for instance!). Therefore, I grew up treating individuals as individuals. Their sex, nativity, pigmentation, caste and creed were not aspects that I focussed upon. This is sheer dumb luck and I believe is responsible for the health of my marriage and the relationship with my students.
Yes, women are the stronger sex. They made only one mistake. They thought that men would do their bit for sustenance, they would do theirs, and it would be a relationship between equals. What ensued was anything but that!
If the wife allows the husband to handle family finances, it is because of trust and not because she can’t handle it herself (at least I hope so. Some women have a very poor view about themselves, thanks to cultural indoctrination)
Women perceive risk a lot better than men. I have had the pleasure of working with some ‘tough as steel’ women researchers. I worked in a lab where we needed to operate liquefaction plants for a living. My boss expected the women to be competent grease monkeys. So we all got our hands and dresses dirty in equal measure. We were trained to handle pressure situations (literally!). Women can handle it a lot better than men. Hence my conviction that they are the stronger sex.
So I am fairly confident that women will not take long to understand that long-term goal planning with short-term financial fortifications (insurances +emergecy fund) is the generic framework of personal finance. That loss of purchasing power due to inflation is the primary risk that one should worry about.
The grim question is, if she realizes that her husband has got it all wrong in terms of finances, can she convince him to rethink his strategy? I believe so, but at what cost is a question that is deeply personal and cannot be made into Women’s day issue.
In a marriage, if the couple understands and agree upon the generic framework, it does not matter who manages the finances (as long as someone does!).
Personally I think it is better if only one spouse (man or women) is in charge of household finances. The other spouse plays an equal role in important decisions, has a general idea of what is going on, but does not get involved in the choice of instruments (provided there is agreement on the category).
I think it is unhealthy if the couples discuss which fund/stock to buy: HDFC Balanced or Prudence? Tata Cofee or Kaveri Seeds?! This is because the information circles of the couple tend to be different and each person will have an opinion in the matter. Arguments and disagreement can cripple the financial health of a family.
So one spouse handles the investments and the couple review the portfolio together from time to time. The point of this post, it to remind the men that if our wives trust us to run the finances of the household it is a privilege. They trust us to deliver. I firmly believe a women with a good grasp of the basics is a better administrator than the men.
The point of this post, it to remind the men that if our wives trust us to run the finances of the household it is a privilege. They trust us to deliver. I firmly believe a women with a good grasp of the basics is a better administrator than the men. If they choose to handle this responsibility themselves, let us thank our stars and try to be helpful.
Here is an extraordinary song, bread and roses, from the movie ‘pride’. It became popular after the 1912 strike by women textile workers.
As we come marching, marching, we battle too for men,
For they are women’s children, and we mother them again.
Our lives shall not be sweated from birth until life closes;
Hearts starve as well as bodies; give us bread, but give us roses!
My situation. Let me end this post with an anecdote. My wife hates personal finance. She is far smarter than me, but she just hates personal finance. She trusts me entirely with the finances, especially the investments. As a sole earner, my job is to provide for now and the future. I am lucky that we are financially compatible and think 10 times before making a big ticket purchase.
We recently got a DSLR for which she wanted an expensive zoom lens (6 figures). I told her that we cannot afford it now. She then asked me how much we can spare. When I gave a figure, she said ‘invest in an equity fund and try your luck after a few months’. I said, I could, but it would take a couple of years even if we are lucky, not few months.
So she left it at that. I felt bad and decided to scrounge around without touching any of our investments. Then I realized that we could indeed buy the lens straight away and offered to buy it for her. She felt elated at first and then the next day said, ‘we have just got an expensive DSLR. Let me learn photography a bit more with what we have and then buy the lens’.
By the time she said this, I had arranged for the money to get credited in my SB account. So I asked her, ‘I have the money ready, what do we do?’.
She said (and I quote), ‘put it in a liquid fund, until I am ready’!! I gaped in amazement.
The stronger sex in more ways than one. QED.
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